Positive Body Image Quiz: 35 Signs and Rewards to Aim For

Alice White Author:

I agree with most of this list, posted by my good friend, August McLaughlin. The only parts I don’t are; the second part of point 8. I never care about calories, carbs, or fat :P; and 23/24. I’m on the fence with those. I DO still try to avoid cameras sometimes, since I already am aware I am not particularly photogenic, and never have been. But that’s okay, it’s just a simple truth I came to know. I am however, better than I was about seeing photos of myself out there… even the not so great ones ;)

Originally posted on August McLaughlin's Blog:

Most folks analyze, or at least consider, their appearance and lifestyle habits regularly. But what about your body image? Have you ever taken inventory?

As I explained on Rick Gabrielly’s fabulous new podcast The Marriage BOSS poor body image is seldom rooted in vanity. Women are taught in countless ways that certain physical traits pave the way for happiness and success, and if we lack them, we may as well succumb to misery. Luckily, that’s not true. We will suffer, however, if we make them our truths. Make sense? How we feel about our bodies and looks becomes self-fulfilling. A little self-awareness can go a long way in shifting your ways toward the positive.

I compiled the following list of healthy body image signs based on decades of personal and professional experience. To use it as a quiz, jot 1 – 35 on a sheet of paper. Then beside each corresponding item that applies to…

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#NotSorry: 5 Things I No Longer Apologize For

Alice White Author:

Wonderful, inspiring blog post, from my friend and fellow author August McLaughlin. I thank you for posting your five, August. Here are mine.
1. For not being a morning person, and not feeling comfortable with, or having patience for, doing too much at that time of day, other than letting the dogs out for their morning constitutional, before coffee! I now say; “I’m grumpy in the mornings – deal with it.” ;)
2. For being an introvert. I have found that “button” some of we introverts press in order to be a little more social at gatherings, but sometimes it doesn’t work. When I was very young, I actually used to think there was something wrong with me, and used to apologize inwardly, until I met more introverts. Now, I don’t.
3. For not feeling I have the time or energy, (or inclination), to wear makeup, get my nails done, follow the latest trend in hair-do’s, follow fashion, or own many pairs of fancy shoes. I tried makeup once upon a time, but did not like how it felt on my face, so stopped using it. Thankfully, I am happy enough in my own skin that I don’t feel the need to cover it up with “war paint” :) I also wear a lot of black. a) because I REALLY like black, and b) it makes it so easy to pick out a coordinating “outfit” for the day!! (I do like to be coordinated, but I’m not overboard about it). I must stress, however, that I only “dress up” when I’m going out of the house, or if we are having visitors, (the latter for the sake of decency), since most of the time I lull about the house in my pajamas. Yes, my PJ’s are coordinated, too ;)
4. For sometimes having to say NO to arrangements, because of health or life in general getting in the way. Or because I just don’t want to. Sometimes, priorities change or we don’t feel like doing something, so we shouldn’t feel bullied or guilt-tripped into it. I used to, for fear of hurting feelings, but I don’t anymore. So, if I do agree to do something, know that it is because I WANT to and am able to, not because I would feel guilty if I didn’t ;)
5. Finally, for being weird and unusual. I have always marched to the beat of my own drum, and never felt the need to “fit in”. Occasionally, especially when I was much younger, it would get me down to be called “weird” or “freaky” or “just not with the times”, but now I embrace my uniqueness. Life is way too short to feel guilty about being yourself. :)

Originally posted on August McLaughlin's Blog:

You may have noticed that women apologize a lot. A whole lot. While it’s appropriate to say, “Sorry!” when we’ve, say, stepped on another’s toe, apologizing for being ourselves hurts us and, by way of example, others.

A few years ago, the ever-sparkly Natalie Hartford published a blog post called 5 Things I’ll Never Apologize For, which basically says, “This is who I am. Deal with it!” (Woot!)

I’ve thought of her post many times since, particularly upon realizing I’m no longer apologetic for aspects of myself that once left me guilt-ridden.

Here are five of those things:

1. For not being a night owl.

I think I’m genetically predisposed to turn into a mushy-headed pumpkin by 9pm. (I don’t even know what that is. Anyway…) I used to feel dorky for wanting to eat dinner at 5pm or donning PJs when “hipper” friends were taking pre-going out naps. Not anymore.

Proof that turning in early can be sweeter. Proof that turning in early can be sweeter.

If I stay…

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Five Star Review of Bayou Jesus by M.G. Miller

A dark, Southern Gothic tale that had me hooked from the first line. I saw, tasted, felt, and smelled the bayou – even though I have never experienced it in person. I understood the oppression endured by Zassy; a young black woman, struggling to live in a time with no racial equality, as a single mother of a son who seems to have a special calling.
The three sections, entitled Father, Son, and Ghost, led me on a journey that took me through an emotional spectrum so vast, and twists I didn’t see coming, that it kept me hooked throughout.
I do my reading just before going to sleep, and I found it difficult to put the book down, even as eyes drooped. M.G. Miller is a master at his craft, and Bayou Jesus is a stroke of genius.
Five stars well deserved!

Some. Only some.

Alice White Author:

Great words by my friend and fellow author, Amy Weaver, and again totally relatable, I am certain, by pretty much everyone. xox

Originally posted on thelongandwritingroad:

Some will take every chance they can to point your weaknesses, instead of your strengths.

Some want to lower you, so they can appear above you.

Some won’t celebrate your accomplishments, but will definitely relish in your failures.

Some will call you a name, one that’s so far from who you really are, that it proves they don’t know you like you thought they did.

Some won’t reach out to you when you’re hurting and going through a difficult time, but will definitely show up when things are fabulous.

Some never see your tears or hear your breaking heart.

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These “some” are the cause for silence and exiting. These “some” need to know you take your shortcomings head-on and are quite aware of every single one of your faults.  Seriously, every single fault is burned in the memory, especially after being pointed out on more than two or three occasions. These…

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What is SPRING?

I sit in my recliner during a break today, at around 12.30pm and watch the light change.

I wonder if you all know what I mean by that.

Well, in short it means that spring has arrived. But what is spring?

 

Brand new buds augment their presence on trees.

Flowers shoot up to the waiting world in a spectacular, but gradual, “ta-da”.

daffodilsYellow daffodils stretch for the cloudless warmer, richer, bluer sky from greener grass.

Cardinal and BlueJayMister Cardinal shares his juicy pickings with mistresses Blue Jay.

Sister Goldfinch perches with tentative balance on newly formed twigs.

SANYO DIGITAL CAMERACarefree deer at play in the meadow, their white tails bouncing.

Thunder storms, rain, and a fuller sun coaxing all to life.

The daylight’s paler, winter colours make way for brighter hues,

Signalling spring has sprung along with hope for new beginnings.

 

What does spring mean for you?

It Had to do With Sex

Alice White Author:

My friend, mentor, and fellow author, Velda Brotherton, has some strong views, (and rightly so), on women’s history :)

Originally posted on Velda Brotherton:

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Do you know why women were expected to ride side saddle in the old days?

Read on and I’ll tell you. March is women’s history month, which is a perfect time for a writer of western historical romance. The feminine mystique makes an interesting topic anytime, as does the history of women’s accomplishments. Since lists are boring, let’s talk about a few of the women who have done some fascinating things in spite of being tied down by society’s strict views.

Let’s look at the wild and somewhat daring Calamity Jane, who never settled for the norm. One can imagine she probably was what was often called a “tomboy” all of her life. But as she grew into a woman, she embraced everything she was told well behaved women were forbidden to do. She cussed (cursed) up a storm, drank most men under the table and…

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Simple Can Be Great

Alice White Author:

We all write differently and we all read differently. There is plenty of room for all styles and all tastes. Thank you to my friend and fellow author, Amy Weaver, for posting this totally relatable blog :)

Originally posted on thelongandwritingroad:

One minute: “Oh, I love this.”

Next minute: “Ugh… this is utter crap.”

Three minutes later: “Wait, maybe it’s not toobad.”

Six minutes after that: *Crumbles paper and throws it across the room* OR *Delete… Delete… Delete…*

Every single writer I know has had this moment a few hundred thousand times, if not more. It’s exhausting to question every word we write. It can be excruciating. I tend to pace the floor as I talk out loud (or scream) at my characters, while pulling my hair out at the root.

Pace… pace… pace… scream.

Yes, I know if I chill out, not force it, the words will work themselves out, but of course, it takes me going through the screaming and pacing drama to get me to the other side.

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Thankfully, I have random days when it seems all the stars are in alignment, and the rays of writerly-love shine upon me, at the

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